IT's TIME???

How do you know when it's the time to give up?

..........(cries)

*there are things that the blogger really wanted to share here...yet it'sso complex that it couldn be explained perfectly by words...jus pray that happiness is still willing to share its light wif me...hopefully...demm i hate to feel this way :(

Thin pocket day~

Todays's last day of July...and am broke like a single mother with 20 kids...There's only RM1.50 left in the right pocket of my pants. Boss said i'll get my paycheck by tommorrow...But God knows wut will happen if he didnt turn up tommorrow. I have no problem to work here, but the fact that this company is still on its way to build its foundation before it grows up is killin' me.

Cross fingers that tommorrow will be a thick-pocket day for me!

Teacher??

KUALA LUMPUR: Lelaki ‘lembut’ tidak akan mendapat tempat dalam bidang perguruan di negara ini dan permohonan mereka mengikuti program ijazah sarjana muda pendidikan di universiti tempatan berkemungkinan besar akan ditolak, walaupun cemerlang dalam akademik.Malah, semua calon guru berkenaan diwajibkan menjalani ujian Malaysian Educators Selection Inventory (MEdSI), selain saringan temu duga dikendalikan Kementerian Pengajian Tinggi, sebagai langkah memastikan mereka tidak tergolong dalam kumpulan yang mengalami ‘kekeliruan gender’.

Setiausaha Parlimen Kementerian Pengajian Tinggi, Datuk Dr Adham Baba, berkata tindakan itu dilakukan bukan untuk mewujudkan diskriminasi terhadap golongan lelaki ‘lembut’ terbabit, sebaliknya sebagai pendekatan berhemah menyedarkan golongan berkenaan yang menyimpang daripada landasan hidup sebenar.Beliau berkata, pengambilan calon bagi program ijazah pendidikan yang dilaksanakan sebelum ini hanya berlandaskan kecemerlangan akademik semata-mata, dan calon tidak perlu menjalani ujian serta menghadiri proses saringan temu duga.Keadaan itu menimbulkan masalah apabila banyak sekolah mula dibanjiri guru lelaki ‘lembut’ dan senario ini jelas sekali mencacatkan imej perguruan dan pendidikan negara.“Justeru, mulai tahun ini semua calon yang mahu menyertai bidang perguruan perlu menjalani ujian MEdSI dan saringan temu duga. Hanya mereka yang lulus dan menepati kriteria ditetapkan termasuk tidak mengalami masalah kekeliruan gender akan dibenar menyertai kursus pendidikan,” katanya.

Ketika diminta mengulas definisi lembut, Dr Adham berkata, ia bukan merujuk kepada guru lelaki yang berperwatakan sopan santun, tetapi golongan ‘hetroseksual’ iaitu lelaki yang mempunyai perwatakan wanita seperti bersolek dan membentuk kening.“Sebagai pendidik yang juga model kepada pelajar, mereka tidak boleh mempamerkan imej sedemikian kerana perkara ini menimbulkan persekitaran kurang sihat kepada pelajar. Jika inilah golongan pendidik, apa yang akan jadi pada generasi negara akan datang,” katanya.Sementara itu, Naib Canselor Universiti Pendidikan Sultan Idris (UPSI), Datuk Dr Muhammad Rais Abdul Karim, berkata langkah memperkenalkan ujian MEdSI dan saringan temu duga diyakini mampu mengatasi lambakan guru tidak berkelayakan di sekolah.

“Kami mahu guru tampil dalam satu pakej yang sempurna bukan saja mempunyai kredibiliti bahkan imej yang terpuji,” katanya.

-courtesy of berita harian

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Hurm...the issue is interesting. But i dunno how far will the ministry impose this ban towards the soft teacher. If they will only ban those who drag with make-up; that is still considerable...but hey, I dun think there are teachers who will actually go teaching with make-up on their face and wig and heels....hurm~

And they (the ministry) never explain, if there are teachers wannabe who is soft in behavior as in lelaklem (lelaki lembut) but they never go for crossdressings and never put make-up on their face, will they be banned too?

I'm actually curious abt the method that they are gona use i.e. MEdSI. because i dont think that these soft candidates will actually show or even tell the panels that they will eventually drag in school knowing that they will surely be chucked out if the panels were to know abt it...or they (panels) will just fail the candidate right after they see the feminine side of them? hurm....and also, i dun think this will eventually solve this issue at the end of the day.

My recommendation, just use normal recruiting system for all the candidates, and make sure that states education department makes an effort to make spot check for at least 3 times monthly in making sure that NO TEACHERS breaks any rule...and I am sure those soft teachers who drag in school will not dare to do it anymore knowing that they will be punished unbearably by doin so...and these new candidate will never have an initial thought to drag while teaching!

Stress Reducers?

52 Proven Stress Reducers

National Headache Foundation

"Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning. The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful."

"Prepare for the morning the evening before. Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc."

"Don't rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc. ("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory." - Old Chinese Proverb)"

"Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie."

"Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring."

"Practice preventive maintenance. Your car, appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment."

"Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant."

"Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now."

"Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc."

"Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers, whatever, are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones."

"Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments. Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures."

"Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet."

"Always set up contingency plans B, "just in case." ("If for some reason either of us is delayed, here's what we'll do?" kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center, here's where we'll meet.")

"Relax your standards. The world will not end if the grass doesn't get mowed this weekend."

"Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count 'em!"

"Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurrieder I go, the behinder I get, " idea.)"

"Say "No!" Saying "no" to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy for takes practice, self-respect, and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone."

"Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.) Or use an answering machine."

"Turn 'needs' into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.""Simplify, simplify, simplify?"

"Make friends with nonworriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts."

"Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods."

"Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs."

"Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed."

"Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go through the stress of losing things."

"When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths. Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen and chest expand when you breathe."

"Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective."

"Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through you nose to the count of eight. Then, with lips puckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times."

"Inoculate yourself against a feared event. Example; before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you will answer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled."

"When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way of getting the job done, diversion ; a voluntary change in activity and/or environment ; may be just what you need."

"Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help clear your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving."

"One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc."

"Learn to live one day at a time."

"Every day, do something you really enjoy."

"Add an ounce of love to everything you do."

"Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one in summertime) to relieve tension."

"Do something for somebody else."

"Focus on understanding rather than on being understood; on loving rather than on being loved."

"Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better."

"Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell."

"Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon."

"Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I'm too old to?," "I'm too fat to?," etc."

"Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If you work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek peace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you aren?t accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction."

"Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." That's another way of saying: take care of the todays as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves."

"Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do."

"Allow yourself time -: everyday ; for privacy, quiet, and introspection."

"If an especially unpleasant task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety."

"Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others."

"Don't forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it's just for 15 or 20 minutes."

"Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing something or saying anything that could make matters worse."

"Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world."

"Have an optimistic view of the world. Believe that most people are doing the best they can."

-those are 52 tips to a better life...i got them from Adamdryxx's blog. Very-very useful especially when all these tension factors are only shortening my life day by day~cries!

The Tale of a Bird

The Tale of a Bird

Imagine..u found a bird that broke its leg.

U nursed it, fed it and as return the bird kept u company...until one day, it recovered and it was time to part as now it can feed and take care on its own. Ur mission has come to the end and u kow you has to let the bird go...Otherwise you'll end up hurting the lil' bird that you love...

In your heart there is this only big Q: will it come back for me?

-the blogger always believe that if you love someone, you will let that person go; and if he/she is meant to be yours, he/she'll come back for you. But, will you ready to accept him/her back when he/she now is?

Lepak????

Hey again y'all,
nothin interestin' wif ma life that i could put in here btw.
Went lepak at 'Kunang-Kunang' which located near Platinum Condo or sumthin wif Mak Bee, Ted, Ben, Waja and Isis...

Unfortunately, the food there was such a disappointment. I had ‘Kunang-Kunang Curry Mee’…ermm…no, I had kuey teow instead of mee. Nothing special wif that specialty cousine in wutever means wut-so-ever. Wouldn’t recommend anybody to go there anyway..I admit that the ambiance was nice..tropical-balinese-ethnic-kinda-place, but that was just abt it…

For me, the taste of the food comes 1st, the place and other factor come latter. Not to for get the cleanliness larr…

Headed for home afta that, but we later decided to 'mencemar duli' at Danau Kota Downtown. Saw this one stall selling Paul Smith shoes for RM400, the design was nice, that sales guy claimed that it was genuine and an over-running stock...hurm..doubt that tho. and so as a pair of gorgeous white Replay shoes I found at the other stall. Gonna check it in the net aftawards.

till then, daaaa~

p.s.: And No, tat's not that Fat LAdy who's singing!!!!

Happy Birthday??

Froggy's birthday fell on last friday and since his thesis has been submitted and he's quite free nowadays, we agreed to meet at L* Q***n that nite. The songs played by DJ weren't that bad an wehad quite a great time...but it didnt last long when the Anti Narcotic Dpt came rushed in the club and everyone had 2 wait for almost 2 hours so that they could check everyone's urine! It was totally a new experience for me, hehe. The idea of urine test is not a problem fo me as I myself am clean from drugs or wutsoever but the but to make people waiting for 2 hours????...Really, What are they thinking???????????

Enough with that, I btw has succeeded in making a surprise for Froggy as his birthday present. Yeay for moi!!! Where did I bring him to? Wut did i give him? Wut did i do to him?...Well..you guys will have no idea abt it, cos I aint telling.. :P

I just hope that he likes it tho..

(fingers cross)

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Dear bucuk, happy birthday. Many things had happened in our journey and I hope together we can face come wut may. I really am thankful that I've got you..really, i am.

Wut is it with a name?

Hye y'all, I wanna share this one thing that Froggy got from his fren. It's so demm hillarious that we were laughing our lungs out..

p/s: the pic appears to be quite blurry, therefore, if u intend to have a look at it, just double click on that pic, and ENJOY!!!!!

And a reminder to all the Malays out there, next time when u wanna name ur daughter, dun put Shahwati...gross!

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Q: Wut is it with a name?

A: It's given before people know how to use barcode!

RED n BLACK???

Hurm..yeah I know I did it again...(pretending to be innocent)....

I was away from this blog for most 2 months...but hey!look at the bright side; I'm BACK!!!

Hurm..for a start, I just wanna update this Birthday party that i involved in couple of days back. It was Ted's RED n BLACK Party. Yes, the theme was RED n BLACK. I just wore a simple shirt with a red printed dragin motive on it...There were shows from Anique..Naomi..and sum otha funny games!...Me myself was abducted to participate in the MIMING game..I had to do lips sync for 'Kocok-kocok' sang by Inul!!!!...Yes u heard it right...and as perdicted, I did it worse than Britney; ahahahhaha!!..I mean..c'mon..kalu kasi lagu 'Mujeragede'(Hindi song) pun i can still try my best since i did pick up here n there when my dad watches Hindi Movie..Cheeewwahh!!!!





BTW, here are the pix!

i) the guests (pls focus on the right of the pic-sapela yg bertudung ayu tuh!!)

ii)a pose from the posers!!

iii) The CAKE

iv) great party, great people, great outfits-wut else can i say~

Nope, it aint finish until the fat lady sings!!!!!

but she hasnt sing yet; Til' then, Daaaaaaaaa~

*pulang ke Rahmatullah....Oppsss..ke Nirwana!!!